Humans are better as a tribe than as individuals.
We rely on each other for all sorts of things, practical and emotional.
I’ve been reminded of this in lots of ways over the past few weeks, and my clients have been sharing their experiences of how things get better when they lean on others for support. A bit of accountability to someone you trust can be the catalyst for moving forward.
When have you achieved a goal?
Think back to a time when you really needed to get something done, and you just somehow couldn’t get started.
This has been my position re writing a blog post for at least 3 or 4 weeks now! I’ve wanted to do it, know that I could do it, and yet not actually done it.
So how am I managing to do it now?
It’s my team. I’m part of a great networking group called MOVE, and last week one member challenged us all to name a task that needed doing and pledge to get it done.
I don’t want to let the team down, and I know this is something I want to do, so here it is! I pledged to write a blog and a newsletter this week. I’ll meet the group (online) on Thursday, and now I’ll be able to say that I’ve completed at least half of my pledge. I know they’ll be pleased, and even the thought of that is enough to help me get it done 🙂
The brainy part
You know by now that I love the neuroscience behind all of this!
When we get things done, and when we are part of a team and we share our goals and our achievements, magic happens in our brains.
Amazingly, the act of achieving a goal, no matter how small (and even thinking about achieving the goal) sends a neurotransmitter called dopamine across the neural networks in our brain. This makes us feel good, and motivates to do something else to get more of the same.
When we share our achievements with others, and they are pleased, we notice their pleasure and a bit more dopamine is released! It’s a beautiful, connected circuit that we can tap into whenever we need to.
Finding your team
We are all different. This is great!
Some of us may need a big team. Others prefer to keep it small and simple. Some of us are brave and go looking for new team members outside our usual circles and others prefer to wait for an introduction.
Whichever you are, it’s so important to gather a tribe that is just right for you.
We want people in our teams that we can trust, who support us and love us for who we are. We need just the right amount of optimism and positivity, and people who are not afraid to tell us when they notice things aren’t right.
Your tribe might be your family, friends , work colleagues, your gym buddies, a neighbour, a pen pal. Sometimes you may ask for help from outside your circle – an expert who has knowledge or experience that you don’t have.
Whoever they are, these are the people that can help when you need to get something done. Don’t be afraid to ask.
We are better together.