Isn’t it great to have choice? Choose what to eat for breakfast, what to wear, who to call today? Or big things like applying for a job, choosing where to live. Exciting, huh?
Then again… if you’re anxious, choice can seem overwhelming. What if I make the wrong choice, what if that means this goes wrong, that goes wrong?
Time and again, I see clients for whom choice is a problem, and this is because they have a hyper-alert ‘fight, flight, fear’ mechanism which just loves to flag up all the possible pitfalls of each choice, and send them into a spiral of negative thought and worry.
Wouldn’t it be lovely to be able to just relax and let go of the worries, choosing things because they are right NOW, and not even thinking about what might (or might not) happen in the future (or perhaps what went wrong in the past)?
This is what hypnosis can do – calming that over-vigilant ‘security guard’ and bringing choice back under the control of our rational, sensible brain. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy goes one step further – making sure that it’s the rational brain that’s in charge before hypnosis even begins, so that creativity and new ideas come along almost like magic ( it’s not magic, but it can sometimes seem like it!)
If you’d like to regain this sort of control and put yourself back in charge of your choices, give me a call and arrange a free of charge initial consultation. I look forward to hearing from you.
Sally Potter – 01752894160
How do you find the real you? Does it feel as though you are hidden beneath layers of events, anxiety, trauma? This is how one brilliant client recently described their journey from sleepless anxiety to calm and relaxed happiness. “I feel as though I am at the centre of an onion, and that one by one I am peeling away the layers to get closer to the real me” So how do we do that? How do we come to find the treasure that is the real, authentic us through hypnotherapy?
Anxiety and depression cause the fight flight freeze part of our brain to be on permanent alert – protecting us by keeping us on guard and creating layers of defence whilst at the same time preventing the kind of loose relaxed thought that leads to creativity and calm.
Over the years, the layers build up, until it seems that the person we once knew as us has become hidden and we no longer know how to be the real authentic ‘us’ any more.
Solution Focused work combined with Hypnotherapy allows us to begin peeling away the layers of protection, slowly and gently, until there are glimpses and then real sightings of the person underneath. These exceptions gradually become the norm, until all the layers are gone, and we can begin to live life freely again.
I’m talking in metaphors here, but time and again I see in my therapy room the magic of those layers peeling away. Clients who at one time believed that they would always feel anxious or depressed, seeing themselves once more as happy, secure, positive people with so much to offer.
Our brains are so good at creating the protective layers. Hypnotherapy is so good at removing them. If you would like to find out for yourself, please contact Sally at firstname.lastname@example.org or call on 01752894160 and leave a message. I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.
PS Shrek first used the onion analogy. Click here to see him explaining it to Donkey.
Eating is a funny old thing. As primitive people, what we ate would have been determined by what we could hunt for or gather, and we would have had the ability to fast when we needed to, or cut right back when stores were low, and also to gorge if necessary – going well beyond our feeling of fullness in order to store fuel in our bodies for another time.
Today, what we eat is a matter of choice for most people. Food is readily available all of the time and we can eat when we want to, what we want to. And this is the problem.
Our primitive brain is just that – still primitive. It’s changed very little over thousands of years, so it is very keen to make sure that we have enough food on board to see us through the rough times, and it hasn’t quite caught up with the fact that the Co-Op is just down the road!
Hypnotherapy steps in to help ‘reset’ the primitive brain away from it’s old habits, and to make sure that it’s our more modern, intellectual brain that’s in charge when it comes to making choices about food. When you’re committed to change in this way, hypnotherapy is extremely effective – you’re back in control!
Contact me if you’d like to talk about regaining control of your weight this summer. I look forward to hearing from you,
As it’s Mental Health Awareness week this week, I thought I’d explore a bit about community, and how being part of one, or not, can affect our mental wellbeing. Are we really better as a tribe than we are as individuals?
I gave blood today, as I have done 27 times in the past, so not unusual except that I had to go to a new venue. I’d been told that there was free parking, so I followed the signs, approached the barrier, and entered the car park, only to discover that there were no free spaces, and already another 3 cars inside trying to turn round! As these people were also here to give blood, I had no trouble identifying them as part of my ‘tribe’, and we made a collective decision about what to do – call the Donor Centre, find another car park, and accept that we were going to be late. Instead of feeling stressed about my individual failure to keep my appointment, the shared experience buoyed me up, and when we all eventually met inside, we already had a bond, even though none of us had met before.
This sense of belonging, and of being part of a shared experience is often missing in people who are feeling anxious or depressed. Feeling excluded leads to a sense of not belonging and a spiral of decreasing interaction. Various studies have shown that increased social support correlates with reduced stress and loneliness, so when we regularly share experiences and find ourselves part of a community, for whatever reason, this increases our sense of wellbeing.
Science aside, who doesn’t feel better – stronger, more able – when they are part of something bigger? After I’d given up my armful of blood, I sat with others at the table and enjoyed a cuppa and a biscuit. Conspiratorially, we laughed and said that we only came here for the biscuits. But we all know thats not true. We do it to be part of our community, to share an experience, and to feel proud. Or at least I do.
Contact Sally about Solution Focused Hypnotherapy for anxiety, depression and general wellbeing.
Hope may be what drives us on. But what if we don’t have hope? If we feel that hope is gone? This is where Solution Focused therapy steps in – enabling us to identify our hopes and bring them to fruition. Because when hope is restored, everything becomes possible.
Today I met a homeless young man on the street. I stopped and asked him how he came to be where he was, and he told me his story of loss and bad luck. The fine lines that had led from a comfortable home and relationship and a family, to sleeping in a car park until the police move him on. I asked him about his trade, and he told me that he hoped to be back in work soon, because he enjoyed work, the satisfaction of working and the comradeship. I asked if he was hungry now, because it had been my intention to buy him some food, but no, he told me that his best hope for the rest of the day was to raise enough to pay for a B&B tonight, that more than anything he wanted a shower and to sleep in a comfortable bed. I helped him towards that goal, and wished him all the best in realising his dream of getting back to work.
What struck me as I left him, apart from the utter shame of the fact of homelessness on our streets, was that despite everything that had happened, here was still hope. When we hold onto our vision of what we want, rather than what we don’t want, we move ourselves towards that goal. For most of us, there is a bigger goal – one that may seem unattainable right now – and lots of smaller ones. Each day we hope to achieve some small goal, which may move us towards the larger one. For some of us, it’s impossible to even see those small goals because we are overwhelmed by just trying to get through the day, or the next hour, and the bigger achievements may seem ridiculously out of reach. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps by creating a relaxed space where hope becomes real, and goals become achievable.
“Yesterday has gone, tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin” Mother Teresa
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The state of awareness that is known as trance is a normal everyday occurrence for humans. Anyone who has ever daydreamed has been in trance – it’s that lovely ‘other-wordly’ feeling that we get when we have allowed our mind to do it’s own thing. We’re on auto pilot. This state is good for us – it helps configure memories and is restorative for the brain. Some of our best ideas come to us in these moments of drifting freely – no worries about the past or future, just being.
When clients are particularly anxious, it can be difficult to begin with, to allow this state of trance to be induced by someone else – a hypnotherapist – and this may lead to the conclusion that one can’t be hypnotised. Most often, even the most “unhypnotisable” clients learn to let go and to enjoy the wonderful experience of being in trance, and this is the start of a fantastic new journey, a more elevated mental and emotional vantage point, from which all the best options and opportunities in life are always available, will always be seen.
I recently read in Matthew Walkers wonderful book ‘Why we sleep’ that Paul McCartney’s hit song ‘Yesterday’ came to him in a dream, and that Mendeleev came up with the correct order for the periodic table whilst he slept. Imagine what you could do if you were able to open your own treasure-house of creativity through hypnosis…..
To experience the transformative power of hypnosis for yourself, contact me now.