Eating is a funny old thing. As primitive people, what we ate would have been determined by what we could hunt for or gather, and we would have had the ability to fast when we needed to, or cut right back when stores were low, and also to gorge if necessary – going well beyond our feeling of fullness in order to store fuel in our bodies for another time.
Today, what we eat is a matter of choice for most people. Food is readily available all of the time and we can eat when we want to, what we want to. And this is the problem.
Our primitive brain is just that – still primitive. It’s changed very little over thousands of years, so it is very keen to make sure that we have enough food on board to see us through the rough times, and it hasn’t quite caught up with the fact that the Co-Op is just down the road!
Hypnotherapy steps in to help ‘reset’ the primitive brain away from it’s old habits, and to make sure that it’s our more modern, intellectual brain that’s in charge when it comes to making choices about food. When you’re committed to change in this way, hypnotherapy is extremely effective – you’re back in control!
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As it’s Mental Health Awareness week this week, I thought I’d explore a bit about community, and how being part of one, or not, can affect our mental wellbeing. Are we really better as a tribe than we are as individuals?
I gave blood today, as I have done 27 times in the past, so not unusual except that I had to go to a new venue. I’d been told that there was free parking, so I followed the signs, approached the barrier, and entered the car park, only to discover that there were no free spaces, and already another 3 cars inside trying to turn round! As these people were also here to give blood, I had no trouble identifying them as part of my ‘tribe’, and we made a collective decision about what to do – call the Donor Centre, find another car park, and accept that we were going to be late. Instead of feeling stressed about my individual failure to keep my appointment, the shared experience buoyed me up, and when we all eventually met inside, we already had a bond, even though none of us had met before.
This sense of belonging, and of being part of a shared experience is often missing in people who are feeling anxious or depressed. Feeling excluded leads to a sense of not belonging and a spiral of decreasing interaction. Various studies have shown that increased social support correlates with reduced stress and loneliness, so when we regularly share experiences and find ourselves part of a community, for whatever reason, this increases our sense of wellbeing.
Science aside, who doesn’t feel better – stronger, more able – when they are part of something bigger? After I’d given up my armful of blood, I sat with others at the table and enjoyed a cuppa and a biscuit. Conspiratorially, we laughed and said that we only came here for the biscuits. But we all know thats not true. We do it to be part of our community, to share an experience, and to feel proud. Or at least I do.
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Hope may be what drives us on. But what if we don’t have hope? If we feel that hope is gone? This is where Solution Focused therapy steps in – enabling us to identify our hopes and bring them to fruition. Because when hope is restored, everything becomes possible.
Today I met a homeless young man on the street. I stopped and asked him how he came to be where he was, and he told me his story of loss and bad luck. The fine lines that had led from a comfortable home and relationship and a family, to sleeping in a car park until the police move him on. I asked him about his trade, and he told me that he hoped to be back in work soon, because he enjoyed work, the satisfaction of working and the comradeship. I asked if he was hungry now, because it had been my intention to buy him some food, but no, he told me that his best hope for the rest of the day was to raise enough to pay for a B&B tonight, that more than anything he wanted a shower and to sleep in a comfortable bed. I helped him towards that goal, and wished him all the best in realising his dream of getting back to work.
What struck me as I left him, apart from the utter shame of the fact of homelessness on our streets, was that despite everything that had happened, here was still hope. When we hold onto our vision of what we want, rather than what we don’t want, we move ourselves towards that goal. For most of us, there is a bigger goal – one that may seem unattainable right now – and lots of smaller ones. Each day we hope to achieve some small goal, which may move us towards the larger one. For some of us, it’s impossible to even see those small goals because we are overwhelmed by just trying to get through the day, or the next hour, and the bigger achievements may seem ridiculously out of reach. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy helps by creating a relaxed space where hope becomes real, and goals become achievable.
“Yesterday has gone, tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin” Mother Teresa
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The state of awareness that is known as trance is a normal everyday occurrence for humans. Anyone who has ever daydreamed has been in trance – it’s that lovely ‘other-wordly’ feeling that we get when we have allowed our mind to do it’s own thing. We’re on auto pilot. This state is good for us – it helps configure memories and is restorative for the brain. Some of our best ideas come to us in these moments of drifting freely – no worries about the past or future, just being.
When clients are particularly anxious, it can be difficult to begin with, to allow this state of trance to be induced by someone else – a hypnotherapist – and this may lead to the conclusion that one can’t be hypnotised. Most often, even the most “unhypnotisable” clients learn to let go and to enjoy the wonderful experience of being in trance, and this is the start of a fantastic new journey, a more elevated mental and emotional vantage point, from which all the best options and opportunities in life are always available, will always be seen.
I recently read in Matthew Walkers wonderful book ‘Why we sleep’ that Paul McCartney’s hit song ‘Yesterday’ came to him in a dream, and that Mendeleev came up with the correct order for the periodic table whilst he slept. Imagine what you could do if you were able to open your own treasure-house of creativity through hypnosis…..
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I’ve noticed over the past week how the weather forecast has kept me on full alert. My primitive, emotional brain has been looking out for signs of bad weather, constantly vigilant, ensuring that I keep safe by seeing everything from a negative viewpoint – will we be able to get the car out; do I need to cancel clients; have we got enough milk? By encouraging me to re run every possible scenario in my head, this part of my brain has “looked after me”, and indeed I am safe, well fed and warm, and all the clients I couldn’t get to this week have rescheduled for next. Happy Days!
The downside has been that it’s been difficult to find room for much rational, creative thought. Don’t get me wrong – I have managed to get a few things done – we’ve been out in the snow with the sledges and dogs, and I’ve been creative with the cooking (discovered a tin or two in the back of the larder which may not otherwise have seen the light of day). If I’m honest though, I have spent more time than I should just watching the snow come down.
This movement of my thoughts from the rational, intellectual part of my brain into the primitive, emotional part is a useful survival mechanism, which should easily reset once the ‘danger’ (the snow in this case), has passed. In fact, it is already happening. I’m writing this, I’ve hoovered the sitting room, and my diary is sorted for next week. For some though, the ‘reset’ doesn’t happen, and then they are stuck in a spiral of negative thought and forecasting, forever on full alert, always anxious and sometimes experiencing full blown panic. Not a good feeling.
So what can we do about it?
The amygdala – the flight, fight, fear part of our brain is the part that needs to be reset. It needs to know that the danger has passed and that it can downgrade the system to a calm level of vigilance. Hypnosis is a powerful tool for allowing this to happen. In the hands of a skilled hypnotherapist, clients can relax to the point that the mind is open to suggestion, so that the rational, creative intellectual mind can begin to take back control, calming things down and helping ‘switch off’ the full alert response. Once this has happened, decision making becomes possible once more, and we can move forward with confidence.
Sally Potter at Aloft Hypnotherapy (Ivybridge) and The Observatory Practice (Plymouth, Devon) offers Solution Focused Hypnotherapy for anxiety, depression, addiction, weight management, phobia and more. You can contact Sally here.
I think my friend needs help – is hypnotherapy right for him?
The answer to this is – it depends. Does he want help? Is he ready for change?
The first step on the road to a better future is the step of decision, of determination. It’s the motivation that drives us forward and enables us to keep going. So if you ask if I can help someone that you love, yes I can, just as long as it’s the friend that wants to change.
One of the ways that hypnotherapy helps is by creating the environment in our brain that allows solutions to be found. When we have a vision of our goal, however big or small that goal is, we can move towards that goal with everything we do, because our choices will be based on the achievement of that goal. That’s why hypnotherapy is so effective when we have a goal in mind, and we know what we want to achieve. The Solution Focused approach helps enormously in this regard, helping clients to clearly define their goals and the next steps needed to move closer to achieving them.
The first step towards discovering if Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is the right way forward for you is to meet me for an initial consultation. If you’re ready for change, give me a call on 01752 894160 now, or use the contact form.