Confidence – where does it come from?

I see a lot of clients whose main issue when they come and see me is confidence. They used to have it, or maybe they never had it, but they definitely want it!
Confidence allows us to achieve whatever we want to. It enables us to interact in a meaningful way with the world and the people around us. It’s heady stuff – others notice it and react to it. When we feel confidence in others we are attracted to it, like a sort of invisible magical force.
Except it’s not magic.
We’ve all got confidence.
We just have to find it and learn how to use it.
That’s where I come in. I can help unearth that hidden confidence and give it back to you so that you can use it however you want to! Stand in front of a crowd and speak? Walk down the aisle on your wedding day? Smash your next job interview? Whatever it might be, is possible. Contact me here or call on 01752894160 to arrange a free initial consultation.

A Happy New Year?

So, with 2016 almost over, what are you looking forward to in 2017? More of the same, or something different?

Even if you will be glad to see the back of the old year, its worth spending some time reflecting on the good things that happened. There will be some, even if you have to try hard to find them!

Once you’ve found a couple of good things that you did, or that happened, ask yourself why they were good. What was it about those things that made them happy or good? Did you do something differently?

Hopefully you found plenty of good times to reflect upon. Now it’s time to repeat them! Doing the good things again, or repeating the behaviour that made the situation better, will help bring more of the good things to you. Make it your resolution for the coming year – do the good things again.

Wishing you a very Happy Christmas, and a Healthy and Happy New Year 2017. May it be your best yet xx

Keeping it Simple

Do you find yourself overthinking things? Trying to find the reason why situations are as they are? Waking in the night with a head full of ‘what if’s, and if only’s’?

You are not alone. Many of my clients begin with long stories of how things would have been different ‘if only’…. and they find themselves tied in knots trying to fathom out why they feel the way the do.

Stop. The ‘why’ is not important. We create anxiety and stress when we think negatively about situations, and it really doesn’t help. Have you ever had a meeting to go to, and you’ve run that meeting hundreds of times in your head before it happened? Each time the list of disasters getting longer? The REAL meeting went well, but according to your brain, you had 101 meetings, and 100 of them were a total failures! And that’s just one example!

In order to halt this cycle of negative overthinking, we need to re-train our brains to think positively. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is a powerful tool for making this transformation, and it can give us back the power of calm and rational thought, unencumbered by anxiety, anger and stress.

If you’d like to know more, give me a call to discuss making an appointment for a free Initial Consultation, and begin a fresh tomorrow, today.

Tidy home, tidy mind?

I have recently finished reading “The Life-changing Magic of Tidying” by Japanese tidying expert, Marie Kondo.

It really is magic! My husband has been away from home for a few weeks, and I don’t think he’s going to believe what I’ve managed to get rid of, or how incredible organised my cupboards and drawers are looking.

So what?

Well, the amazing thing is that now that I’ve decluttered my things, I seem also to have decluttered the space in my head. There’s more room in there for a bit of creative thought, planning ahead and even some spare time for me to do the things I want to do.

This “decluttering” is one of the aims of Solution Focused work. By focusing on what is important , and releasing ourselves from the prison of negative thought, we make the way clear for the present, prioritising ourselves and those we love, and empowering ourselves by re discovering resources that have been hidden for a while beneath turmoil, stress and ‘clutter’.

I thoroughly recommend the book (link to Amazon here), once you’ve read it, if you still find you need help with sorting out your thoughts, and putting your life in order, please contact me 🙂

Chaos!

Anxiety and stress

Somehow this title seems apt in the light of the news of todays US Presidential Election, but I wonder what this word can also mean in a more personal context?

“something as small as the flutter of a butterfly’s wing can ultimately cause a typhoon halfway around the world”

This description of chaos theory as the Butterfly Effect gives an indication of the tremendous power of small, seemingly insignificant actions which can lead to enormous change.

Sometimes it takes just one small thing to tip our lives from order to chaos, and to cause that feeling of being out of control. We may think of ourselves as extremely well organised, busy people, with the ability to juggle many plates at once, but if what that means is  that we have no spare capacity, then the next small demand may well be the last straw.

Conversely, once we are in that pattern of chaotic behaviour and thinking, it can be tiny changes that allow us to begin to move back towards order again. In fact, these moves towards control NEED to be small, because it’s by far the easier road to behave chaotically. Order and control takes an effort, and we need to train ourselves to think positively, act positively and interact positively in order to influence our lives in a positive way, making small but significant changes to move towards our goals.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy allows the subconscious mind to begin to move towards control by focusing us on our goals and giving us the spare capacity to be creative in finding solutions to our problems. We don’t know why hypnosis works, but we see it working, bringing people from anxiety to calm, from depression to happiness, and from chaos to control.

“From little acorns, mighty oak trees grow”

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Stress and Skin Disorders

Our skin, the largest organ in our bodies, can be the first place to indicate stress. Eczema, dermatitis, and psoriasis can all have a basis in anxiety, and sufferers will recognise this when flare ups occur at times of extra pressure or stress. Psoriasis is often initially triggered by a stressful event or illness. This article highlights the link between psoriasis and mental health. I know as a hypnotherapist, that stress and anxiety can cause all manner of physical symptoms, and vice versa – physical symptoms can lead to a deterioration in mental health. Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can help by bringing control back into your life, reducing anxiety and allowing symptoms to reduce as well.

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Millions

via Daily Prompt: Millions

So, I am responding to a ‘blog prompt’, not something I’d heard about until today, but it’s one of those things that really get you thinking, a way to unblock the paths to creativity!

The prompt is ‘Millions’.

We humans have not just millions, but literally trillions of neurons in our brains, and trillions of connections formed since the moment of our conception, which grow strong, die, change and fade away throughout the whole of our lives. It’s these trillions of tiny connections which make each of us unique, and which allow us to carry out our daily lives in a meaningful and progressive way.

The fact that we can change the connections is fascinating. Think about this for a second. We can change our brains. We don’t need to stay thinking and doing the same things today that we did yesterday. If we are fearful of something, we can change that. If we are addicted to something, we can change that too. We can make ourselves happy, and we can make ourselves sad. Read More

Aim for Better Sleep with Solution Focused Hypnotherapy

In our busy, modern lives where we are constantly juggling work schedules, finances and family life, then it is, all too often, easy to find ourselves feeling too stressed to sleep.

Well, if that sounds like you then you might want to look at visiting a fully qualified, and insured, Solution Focused Hypnotherapy practitioner whose training and skills can help you to relax with the aiming of helping you to sleep better at night.

“We all live increasingly busy and hectic lifestyles,” explains Sally Potter, who is based in Ivybridge and Plymouth. “Modern living can see our stress levels quickly build up.”

“When we go to sleep then the brain normally reduces stress levels by using something called Rapid Eye Movement, or REM sleep.”

“Unfortunately REM is limited to 20% of our sleep pattern, so, if there is a lot of perceived stress in your life, then you quickly use up that 20% of REM, and, as a result, you may find that you wake up and struggle to return to sleep.”

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Sally uses Solution Focused Hypnotherapy to help people focus on positive aspects of life and then helps clients find solutions to certain issues before a session continues by using safe hypnotic techniques to further reduce stress.

“By cutting down on stress in the comfort of the clinic then we find that the client can feel more relaxed and so can then experience a good night’s sleep.”

“ It may take a number of sessions for the effect of therapy to be felt but those effects can be very beneficial – not just for aiding sleep,  but the techniques can also be useful for helping with weight, stress and anger management issues.”

Sally is a member of the Association for Solution Focused Hypnotherapy which insists on the highest standards of practice among its members who are expected to be fully qualified, insured and Enhanced DBS checked.

They are also required to attend regular supervision and career development sessions designed to provide them with the latest research in psychology, psychotherapy and hypnotherapy.

Sally has rooms in Ivybridge and Plymouth, and can be contacted on 01752 894160 or 07792 896225 to arrange a FREE initial consultation at either practice.

Are you thinking straight?

Watch my little video for some musings..A Solution Focused approach to straight thinking..Find out how hypnotherapy can help you get back into your ‘right mind’

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can help reduce pain

As we head towards a darker, colder, and wetter Autumn, it can be a time of year when dull aches and niggles can bring our mood down a notch or two.

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy (SFH) may be able to help people experiencing certain types of discomfort or chronic pain. Fully qualified and insured SFH practitioner Sally Potter, who is based in Ivybridge, Devon, explains how the therapy can help.

“When we experience pain, it can be a real drag and things we normally take in our stride can become overwhelming for us”, says Sally

“Our ability to cope diminishes as our stress levels rise and our focus on the pain itself may increase.

“Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is designed to reduce our stress levels to help us focus on the aspects of our lives that we enjoy and, in turn, increase our ability to cope with the discomfort, which we may be experiencing.

“In short, the brain produces its own natural feel good chemical, serotonin, which helps us to cope with life, and it can also help us when we are dealing with discomfort.

“The therapy aims to increase serotonin production by focusing on the positive areas of our lives from positive thinking to positive interaction and positive action.

“By focusing on these three key areas, we see that people’s moods can lift, which, in turn can help ease discomfort for some people. I provide a full, comprehensive, free initial consultation, which explains how Solution Focused Hypnotherapy works in the management of some types of physical discomfort.

“If you are concerned about a physical condition, it is important to remember to consult your doctor.”

Solution Focused Hypnotherapy can also ease stress, aid in weight management, help with stopping smoking, improve sleep, and allow you to feel calmer and better able to cope with daily life.

Sally is a member of the Association for Solution Focused Hypnotherapy, which insists on the highest standards of practice among its members.

Members are expected to be fully qualified, insured, and attend regular supervision sessions and engage in their own Career Professional Development portfolio to ensure best practice.

You can contact Sally at alofthypnotherapy@gmail.com or by calling 01752 894160. For more information go to the Aloft Hypnotherapy website.*